10 Signs your man is no good

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By Ms.Lavae

Ten signs Of a no good man

 Ladies i know you've had or have a man that you love but aren't sure if he feels the same about you. Or you feel as though you lowered your expectations to be with him. Or it's as if your on the fence about whether he's a good match for you or not. We all go through it. Im gonna name my top 10 signs that you should help you make a decision on if he is worth being with or not. Im telling you now if your man has all of these signs then there is no decision for you to make, it should already be made. Drop everything and run away from that No Good Man.

1. He has no job and doesn't plan on having one.

First and foremost, if your man is is not disabled then he should have a job no matter what. Unless you two discuss that he will stay home with the kids while you work. whatever floats you boat. Anyways if your man just makes the decision on his own not to work there is a problem. How will he support his family with no income? I mean love plays a big part, but it doesn't pay the bills. Also he must not be that much of a man if he's not worried about how his family will eat and where their going to sleep everyday since he not contributing.

2.He doesn't pay half of his share for anything.

 If you and your man live together and do everything together and you find your self always footing the bill, then he is no good. Any man that feels ok with his women paying for everything while he can go spend his money all willy nilly , then he is no man. Ladies know that asking actually scratch that, telling your man to pay half of the bills on the house that you both live in is not wrong. If a man is a man he does not need to be asked to do this he will just do it.

3. He has kids from a previous relationship he doesn't take care of

When your man has kids from a previous relationship and you notice that he doesn't bring them around, talk about them, or just does nothing for them, thats your sign that he is no good.  What makes you think that when you have kids and things dont work out that he's going to take care of your kids. Any man that does'nt take care and look after  something that he created is a straight up and down low life.

4.He's married but claims he doesn't want to be

Ok this right here is a mess, don't get yourself caught up in this because it will not work out it will just cause drama. But if your man has the audacity to be married and you allow him to come shack up with you then im sorry yall both are know good.But if you don't know that's an exception. But if you do and your doing it now . Know that at the end of the day you will not win you will just get hurt. Remeber karma comes back to those who dish it out and when it comes back around then it comes hard so get ready.

5. He's cheating on you

 Ladie's this is always a touchy topic, because so many times we take back cheating man. But most of us realize that when it is all said and done it wasn't worth, because he did it again and again and again. I see it like this i refuse to take a man who cheats on me back because all these men in this world i know there will be someone who will love me for me. and if he has a problem or a request he will bring it to my attention, not go and find another woman and cheat on me with her thats absurd. Enough about me ladies leave him like they say their's so many fish in the sea and you just gotta swim around and find your Nemo, if you know what i mean.LOL

6. He lies alot

Who has time for a lier. I mean you got a man that would lie about anything and everything. If you find that your man excessively lies then you should drop him like a bad habit. How could you ever beleive anything that comes out of his mouth. He could be telling you he loves you , though he may or may not mean it , youll never know. So don't put up with the lies gain the courage and say goodbye. (yall like that little bit of poetry i know)

8. He acts like a child

 So if you have or have no kids then im sure you dont want an extra one. Who has the time to instill etiquette, and things your momma should have taught you into a supposed to be man. When you decide on a man you need to make sure he is mature enough to be in a relationship and is mature enough to even be considered a man, or else you will find your self trying to raise him instead of date him. FYI this never works. So drop the kid and find your self a man.

7.He has no confidence and claims that you think your better

 From experience i had a guy who had nothing going for his self. He had a good heart but nothing on his mind. So when i would encourage him to get a job or something of that nature he would actually go off. He would always say you think your so much better then me. Obviuosly i didnt know where that came from, especially because i was just trying to help. If you have a man who does this to you dont put up with it's nothing but nonsense. He just does it because he cant pick himself up and do better so he blames eveyone else.

9. He doesn't treat like the lady you are.

 If your man doesn't treat you with respect and diginity then you should respectfully move on. I mean if you don't feel sexy or you have to change into someone differn't for your man then you need to find someone that you can be 100% you with no artificial personalities added on. These days woman put up with so much, and it's uneccesary. It's like this either your man's going to respect or he's not and let him no if he choses not then he's out the door. no an's if's or but's about it.

10. Last but def not least your man has no goals.

This is a big one, it's always important to ask about this, because alot of men will just say i don't klnow, and that means you need to keep pushing it. Perhaps you would say does i dont know just mean that you havent decided or does that mean you just don't have goals? If he says he just has no goals then that means your dealing with someone who will be in their own little world with nothing on their mind. And if their like that all of their lives they will never have anything of their own. They will always depend on someone else to get them the things they want. This is not the type of guy that you want. Go get a man with some dreams even if there a little far fetched it's better to have dreamed then to not dream at all.

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When it's all said and done.

 Some of you may agree with me and some of you may not. But one thing's for sure whether it's one thing you find or 10 things you find you have to do what's for your best interest. Us ladies need to stop trying to hold on and shied these no good men. Here's a good tip. If you even have to question whether your man is worth being with or not then something's wrong then you probably shouldn't be with him. Because when you have that guy who you love so much then you'll know he's the right one and there will be no second guessing. So ladies i wish you all luck on finding your Mr.Rights.

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lorlie6 Level 3 Commenter 2 years ago

Very precise signs, Ms. Lavae, and so very true!!!

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Cagsil Level 7 Commenter 2 years ago

Nicely written hub. Thank you so much for sharing.

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unvited03 2 years ago

Yes girl preach on, very true we need to drop these men like a bad habit, like i always say bad men will always find themselves by themselves.

Tamara  2 years ago

You hit it right on the nose girl.

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Himitsu Shugisha 2 years ago

I like the topic and you hit on a lot of good points. I would be interested to see your take on the same topic, but listing the attributes of a new good woman.

Daisy 2 years ago

i have someone that meets at least 7 of these points, the problem is i own everything do i can't just pick up and go. i can't get him to go either. even if i have a 1 year plan to liquidate all my things, he is going to dry me up in the meantime. HELP *** ANY SUGGESTIONS??? ***

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gramon1 2 years ago

Hey, based on your list, I have all the points in the good man department. I have a great job, I support my wife totally, while she pursues her artistic endevours. I have no children. I help support my nephews, my niece, and whoever looses his or her job in my family. I am happily married and claim to be so. I love acting like a gentleman, opening her door, letting her ahead, grabbing by the neck of any jerk that direspects her (throws a kiss, calls her mamma, or any of those stupid thinks some guys do, thinking they will impress her). I have many goals, and continuously arrive at some of them. I am a workoholic, but at the end of the day, I love to take her out for dinner, to the theatre, to listen to music, or whatever fun stuff I come up with. I am always honest, straight forward, and open.

But when my wife met me, I was recently divorced, jobless, defeated by life, temporarily insecure, totally broke, and felt like my goals had become unattainable. Yet, she accepted me, believed in me, and showed me my true worth.

Ladies, you don't have to find the perfect man. You can help your man reach the sky.

aimee 18 months ago

not only is he married but cheating on me also the snake

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kimberlyslyrics Level 6 Commenter 14 months ago

girl, great hub and glad to be following

kimberly

Destyni 7 months ago

i like this , i kicked my ex out before reading this, but he had all the traits so i belive i di the right thing.

latonya 6 months ago

Man i defly love all of these traits,,this man never talked about his kids,and then on top of that i found out he is married..he was selfish with is money and when i left him and moved on..he was heartbroken i had to be the dumbest person in the world to think i loved him and e loved me..ugh..im glad he is gone and i have moved on..any of these traits should be a sign of leave his ass alone..thank the lord i was smart.

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